A Checklist Of Things To Talk About Grandmother At Her Doctor's Appointment Tomorrow

In reverse chronological order:

• Well, the main thing these days is her paranoia and defensiveness over money. This morning, as well as last Wednesday and Thursday last week and definitely around the 1st of the month she has been a terror, constantly asking me where her checkbooks are, several times a day. In fact, last Thursday or Friday she asked me where they were five minutes after I told her. She has also been quite defensive, accusing me of taking them and not letting her know where they are. She gets that way when she runs out of money. Today she says she has very little, even though I got her most of her monthly welfare check on the 1st.
• The events Tuesday evening: Putting creamer in her soup, then asking me again whether I fixed the phone and if she bought pork that afternoon.
• She has been sundowning a lot: Puttering about, going to my room several times a night to either ask something or tell me a story with an enthusiasm that is unlike her.
• Last Sunday, she came to my bedroom door eight times to either ask me something I already told her or to tell me something I didn't give a shit about.
• When I was in Miami around October 1 -- this is before her last visit to the doctor's -- I called home around every morning to make sure things are OK. For the first couple of days she asked me what time I was coming home. The last few days, though, she knew I was out of town.
• One time she told me that he was going to drive me out of the house as soon as he throws her out about seven times in this conversation. This was around mid-September.
• Father says she tried to microwave something metal in September.
• She had been forgetting things over August. Father said she left the water in the sink open to the point where it flooded the basement. Grandmother may have done it twice this month.
• Father also says that he caught her leaving a pot of water boil to the point of complete evaporation.
• She has been kind of scared ever since she heard that they were closing The Store in early August.
• I left insulin syringes for her when I was in Italy. She forget to use five of them when I got back home.
• She has been forgetting things for a long time. Father keeps telling me that before I leave, I need to check the stove and back door.
• In fact, years ago I was visiting my uncle in Hong Kong and she told me that if she was playing at a casino, she would throw her chips down and then just walk away.
• She had been very good this weekend -- lucid and self-aware of how she's slowing down. But especially when it comes down to her being desperate over money, she becomes senile and paranoid.